Breaking Family Patterns: How To Identify Your Family Patterns
Barry K. Weinhold, Ph.D.
About the Author:


I am Professor Emeritus in the Counseling & Human Services Program at the University of Colorado-Colorado Springs. I am also a licensed psychologist and co-director of the Carolina Institute for Conflict Resolution and Creative Leadership in Asheville, North Carolina The content for these books comes from my 35+ years of experience as a practicing psycholgist and over 50 years as a marriage partner. In this and the sequel book, I share my own story of how I identified and changed my family patterns.

I consult with individuals and couples on Skype and conduct therapy intensives through CICRCL. I also conduct workshops for the general public and in-service trainings for professionals. For Information about these services contact my representative at cicrcl@bellsouth.net

I am the author or co-author of 41 books, including Breaking Free of the Co-dependency Trap, The Flight From Intimacy, Healing Developmental Trauma, Conflict Resolution: The Partnership Way.  All these books are currently available through Amazon, bookstores or in the store at my web site, www.weinholds.org

I live near Asheville, North Carolina with my wife, Janae and can be contacted at barryk@weinholds.org.



This book will help you stop replaying unconscious patterns from your family-of-origin in your adult relationships and with your children. Most people don't understand how and why this happens, so they feel powerless to change things. This practical how-to book contains many stories about how Barry changed his life by identifying and breaking his dysfunctional family patterns. It will  will help you not only break free of your family patterns, but also change your life.

How to Identify Your Family Patterns,  the first in a two-part series, presents 12 common relational patterns that unconsciously replay in all families and are the primary cause of human suffering. These dysfunctional, addictive family patterns often lay dormant until adulthood, when they begin to interfere with intimacy in relationships.

This book contains many exercises, inventories and self-awareness activities to help you break free of the intergenerational legacy of attitudes and behaviors family patterns carry with them.The author believes that these unconscious patterns are factors in emotional, sexual and physical child abuse and neglect; all crimes of violence; all addictions, including eating disorders, alcoholism, and drug abuse; teenage suicides; all unhappy adult relationships; and perhaps all illnesses.

This book will help if you:

  1. Feel your partner treats you like you were treated growing up.
  2. Want your partner to change so you can feel better.
  3. Feel unappreciated and unseen by your partner.
  4. Walk on eggshells so your partner won’t criticize you.
  5. Find it difficult to have fun and be spontaneous.
  6. Have conflicts that remind you of those you experienced growing up.
  7. See parts of your parent’s relationship in your current relationships.
  8. Not enjoy sex the way you would like to.
  9. Feel criticized by your partner the way you were criticized by your parents.
  10.  Experience difficulty in sustaining intimacy in your relationships.
  11.  Get afraid of being too successful.
  12.  Fear making mistakes when you are faced with decisions.

Reading this book will shift your thinking about yourself and the struggles you have in your life in ways that you can’t even imagine. It will help you see things in ways that make you feel like you've just walked out of a life-long fog.



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